Almost 20 years ago, my husband and I joined our two families into one. Over the years, we developed into a loving, happy tribe with all the joys, challenges and worries of any large family.
The kids are all grown and out on their own now. Some of them have their own children! When the last of them moved away, the house seemed so… disturbingly quiet and echoey. It was a little uncomfortable and just “not right”.
For awhile, my husband and I kept up with the routine we had developed while kids were living with us. And then we realized, we were Alone. For the first time in our relationship, we were ALONE in our home.
This first thing we did was start watching our television shows in the family room wearing our jammies. Oh so nice! Then we began to leave the bedroom door open when we went to bed. From there, we became acclimated to our new reality in faster increments.
I relocated the good flatware to the kitchen. He took over one of the empty bedrooms for his creative work. I learned how to cook for two. He started parking his car next to mine in the driveway rather than behind it. I took over another of the unused bedrooms for my own purposes. We both started picking up chores the kids did regularly, like emptying the dishwasher and taking out the trash. And reloading the dishwasher and putting a new bag in the bin.
These days, when we return home, everything is just as we left it. For bad or good. Cup half empty. Cup half full.
Life changed. Our time became our own. The silence became soothing, restful. We started doting more on our dogs – a clear case of transference that we have never tried to disclaim. Our relationship, which has always been close, became even stronger.
Now, we have Time and Energy to Live more Naturally, Dine more Organically, Travel Spontaneously and Share the Journey with you.
Yes, technically we are empty nesters, but our cup is overflowing. Our Nest is Half Full.